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Aiden
Robert
Roth
This memorial website was created in the memory of our son, Aiden who was born on July 2, 2004 and passed away on July 2, 2004. We will remember him and love him ~Forever and Always...
In honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, we hosted the 2nd Annual Walk to Remember on October 10th, 2009~ to honor our son, Aiden, and all other babies gone to soon.
~OUR BABIES~
Myles Lee Anderson Jarell Edward Butler Serendipity Lee Camponez Duncan Lynn Christensen Brandon P. Elias Selah Freyberger Kenneth Goodwin Ella Grace Baby Griffin Baby Gurule Dominic Xavier Hays Baby Hennemann Jack Joseph Nelson Sophia Ann Oxendale Amanda Page Paddock Kelly Paddock Stacey Kara Paddock Nathaniel Prindle Aiden Robert Roth Baby Roth Rachael Shoemaker Anthony Cubella Simmons Jr Zachariah Robert Smith Emma Dori VanSomeren
"We walk for the steps you will never take..."

Like a shooting star, passing through the night sky, Our baby passed quickly through our lives, Taking with him a lifetime of hopes and dreams we had for him. But he left footprints on our hearts, and brought clarity to our lives. Energized by our love, he is guardian of our memories of what was And our dreams of what someday may be.
Dear Lord, I would love to hold Aiden on my lap and tell him about you, but since I don't have the chance, would you please hold him on your lap and tell him about me? - Unknown
We think about you always, we talk about you still, you have never been forgotten and you never will. We hold you close within our hearts and there you will remain, to walk with us throughout our lives until we meet again.
The day that we found out that you were a little boy was also the day that we found out that we were going to lose you. Aiden was born at 21 weeks. He was perfect in every way, but just too little to survive on his own.


 We loved you before we even knew you... 
 I remember laying in bed at night and feeling you wiggle and kick. Your daddy felt you too. Those moments we shared together were so special. I will remember them always.
We thought of you with love today. But that is nothing new. We thought about you yesterday. And days before that too. We think of you in silence. We often speak your name. Now all we have is memories. And your picture in a frame. Your memory is our keepsake. With which we'll never part. God has you in his keeping. We have you in our heart.
Please Light A Candle For My Angel~
What We Remember Lives On...
~Remember Me With Love~ As years pass by, and others rarely mention my name, remember me with love. When my anniversary date arrives, take a moment to say my name out loud. If tears fall, let them. Wherever you are, know that I am. I live in your heart, mind, and soul. Don't worry. You will never forget me and we will be together again. I have taught you about a mother's love in a way nothing else possibly could. Don't waste this lesson, use the love you still possess to give to others. Comfort others who have had a loss. Do it in my memory. And besides that, a little bit of me lives on in each person you touch. You have the power to make my legacy one that I would be proud of. Light a candle, buy a rose, perform an act of kindness- simple things. But then, our love is so great, no remembrance could ever be large enough to show how much you love me- for true love has no boundaries. And don't forget, I love you too. Look at a puffy cloud, flower or bird. Have no doubt, my angel spirit is. Contemplate the many gifts I've left, how I've affected your life in a good way. I've shown you how precious life is and given you a greater appreciation of it. I've let you discover how strong you really are. I hope my short time here has made you discover what's really important. Your faith has been tested and hopefully, strengthened. I hope your heart is filled with peace. But, most of all, know that our love is eternal. If you think of me today, I'll be rejoicing from above- To know that you are remembering me with your precious mother's love.
Author Unknown
Y Dearest Aiden~ O precious, tiny, sweet little one You will always be to me So perfect, pure, and innocent Just as you were meant to be. We dreamed of you and of your life And all that it would be. We waited and longed for you to come And join our family. We never had the chance to play, To laugh, to rock, to wiggle. We long to hold you, touch you now And listen to you giggle. I'll always be your mother, He'll always be your dad, You will always be our child, The child that we had. But now you're gone... but yet you're here. We sense you everywhere, You are our sorrow and our joy. There's love in every tear. Just know our love goes deep and strong. We'll forget you never~ The child we had, but never had, And yet will have forever...
  
Our joys will be greater Our love will be deeper Our lives will be fuller Because we shared your moment.

Some people only dream of Angels. We held one in our arms...
I drove into the cemetery With tears in my eyes today I placed a flower upon your grave And bowed my head to pray Looking at the simple marker Nothing fancy, or overdone I couldn't help but cry as I read The birth and death of my first son I told you how much I missed you Your face I could clearly see You have died, but are not lost You will always be a part of me

~Never Be Forgotten~ I’ll always see your face And all the little things that no one will ever know Like it was yesterday, won’t ever fade away. Goodbye is just a word that I will never say. You will never be forgotten. A million days could pass us by But what is time but just a dream? Oh, I still feel you here with me. You’re more than a memory. Oh, you will never be forgotten. I can‘t hold your hand Or look into your eyes And when I talk to you It just echoes in my mind. But If hearts are made of dust And if we fell from the stars, I look up tonight and know just where you are. You will never be forgotten.

Please light a candle for an angel today, For our precious babies who have drifted away. They were taken from us, even though they were born We labored, we cried, their memory lives on...
~What My Child Has Taught Me~ I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't. I've learned that learning to forgive takes a lot of practice. I've learned that friends can become strangers, and strangers can become friends. I've learned that ignorance isn't an excuse for lack of compassion. I've learned that some people will never, ever - "get it." I've learned that the community of sorrow is the strongest of all. I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn't stop for your grief. I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of minutes. I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon. I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them. I've learned that love isn't measured by the amount of time you have with someone. I've learned that some sorrow is so deep that it has no words. But so is love.
I wish very much that you could understand~
Understand my loss and my grief.
But, I pray daily that you will never will.
And to those of you who do, my heart aches with you...



~Oh Father, My Father~ Close your eyes and feel me near, keep me inside your heart, let me live in your soul. You see through tears the things we will never do~ running across the fields of my youth, games never played, But it is not gone, those dreams you hold so close, For I live on in every child you see, little ones standing alone... lost or laughing in a playground. Swinging so high, touching the treetops that is I, wanting just to love. Feel my happiness in the song of a bird, see my sorrow in mother, hold her close forever, feeling your strength. For there will be one to come behind me, whether from God's grace or from a different calling, a child chosen through His hand. For in darkness, a light will appear, Even if it is just the dawn signaling a new beginning. And as you gather my mother to your heart, release your tears, Let the healing begin and discover that I am here, in your dreams, in your tomorrows. Every rainbow is the path home and if you should stumble, I am the wings that shall lift you.
Love, Aiden
 ~Oh Mother, My Mother~ I touch your tears, invisible fingers soothing your skin. I know you think of me so often in the day, in the night, in your dreams, going into an empty nursery knowing I'll never be there, But I am... in your heart, in your soul, I shall always be for you gave so unselfishly of yourself. Inside of you, you created such a world for me, a world of laughter, of love, of sadness, of sorrow, Every emotion people come to know you shared with me. And even though I may never feel your arms around me, I felt your heart beating, like a lullaby, singing me to sleep and your spirit giving me a safe haven already protecting me, nurturing me, preparing me of things to come. But sometimes the journey of life pulls souls apart And yes, I had to go on to another place. I wish I could stay, I wish this was a decision that I could make and I know you do too. Know this wherever you are: I will always remember that yours was the first love, the first joy, the first soul I will ever know. You gave me the courage to go on in my journey. I hope I can do the same for you. Your heartbeat will always call me to you.
Love, Aiden
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Thoughts on your BIRTHDAY / Bob Roth (grandpa)
Aiden, you are never far from my thoughts and you will always be loved and remembered by your family. What I wouldn't give to see you playing with your little brothers. I know you'd be as proud of your mommy and daddy as I am. They are wonderful pare...
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Merry Christmas! / Mommy
Well, we did it, sweetie... we finally had you moved to be closer to us. I am so thankful that we were able to make it happen. It means so much to have you close to us. I was able to carry your little coffin in my arms to your ...
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I love you / Cousin Andrea (Cousin)
I love you so much Aiden you were so perfect, and I wish you could be with us now, but I always know your wathing over me! Love you Aiden! XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO Continue >>
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Happy Birthday! / Andrea S. (Cousin)
Aiden, today I let my tears fall,fall for you. I know your so close to me though you seem so far, I love you with my heart, Happy Birthday!Your brother Gabe is a healthy little baby ( and a smiley one too!) |
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Gifts! / Andrea S. (cousin)
I love you lots Aiden, and miss you lots also. Aiden, I'm so thankful God gave us you. Our family is so lucky to have other babies as gifts from God, after he took away you! Your brother Gavin, your sibling in your mommy's tummy, my ...
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Thinking of you & your family today ~ / Amy Aikin (Friend of His Mommy & Daddy ) Read >> |
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Can you miss someone without seeing them? I can miss you!!! / Andrea S. (Cousin) Read >> |
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so sorry / Amy Riemenschneider Read >> |
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Never Forget / Raquel Shoemaker-Allen (Aunt) Read >> |
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How great you are! / Andrea S. (Cousin) Read >> |
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Aiden, your gift to us / Bob Roth (grandpa) Read >> |
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A Walk to Remember To my precious, little boy Aiden~
I continue to ache to find a fitting way to both remember and share you with others….
In an attempt to do just that, we hosted a memorial walk and fundraiser- “A Walk to Remember,” this past weekend, October 11th, 2008. What a success!
We were able to honor and remember you, alongside other families, who also have tragically suffered the loss of a child. We had a short service, with music and poems and ended with a balloon release ceremony. We then, all together, walked around the lake, enjoying the fall colors- remembering you and your short life. We walked for the steps you will never take… I felt you with me- every step I took! Almost immediately after the last person returned from the walk and reached the shelter of the pavilion, it began to rain. I believe that was you and your friends, letting us know that you were there- aware of the love we were sending you! Shedding tears of joy knowing that you were wanted… are real… grieved…. remembered… missed… and most of all loved!
I know I tell you this often, but you have changed me in ways no one else possible could or ever will- and I thank you, with every breath I take, for making me who I am. I see the world differently and I hope to make this world a better place. I do it in your memory and in honor of you!
Your little brother, Gavin, talks about you frequently and I’m sure Gabe will too if he ever starts talking! Gavin says he misses you- baby Aiden. I hope to create memories of you, other than visiting you at your gravesite, for them. They always enjoy sending you balloons! Hopefully this is one of the many memories that we will create for your brothers in honor of you! You will forever continue to be an active part of our family. We will never forget you!
As always, I hope to make you proud. I wish you were here to create and share these memories with us. Although that will never happen, you continue to be with me- every morning I wake up and with me every night as I lay down to sleep. You are with me every minute of every day. I love you! I love you! I love you!
~Your Proud Mommy XOXOXO
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Dearest Aiden, Another year has passed by, but your memory has not faded. I am so thankful for the short time that we had together. Your tender life and young death have taught me many things- that our children are not ours, they are on loan. That all couples do not just have children- some of us have to go through many heartaches and hardships to be granted just one wish... the wish for a child. Today, I feel blessed to look into the eyes of your brothers and to see you. I see you play and laugh and talk through the acts of your brothers, who are truly my little miracles. I know that I wouldn't have them, had I not had you first. My gift to you is not to take a moment of it for granted. I love you and thank you for making me the person I am today, all the bumps and bruises included. Love ~ Forever and Always.... ~ Mommy |
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To my son I can hardly believe that it has been nearly two years since I held you in my arms. I wonder every day what our lives would be like with you here with us. I can only imagine how you and your brother, Gavin would play. Oh, what I would give to see you two together, laughing and playing. Do you look like Gavin? Are you still my tiny, little baby boy or are you growing up now? There is so much that I wonder about. When I see you again will you be a grown man? Will you look like your father? I ache to hold you in my arms...
It's so weird that I can feel so complete and happy but yet ache for you so much. I know that your little brother was your gift to us and I thank you every day. I know that you sent him here because you had some place else to be. I hope you feel all of my love for you. Every time I kiss his forehead I hope you feel it too.
I am so glad I finally have a way of sharing you with others. It is so important to me that people know about you and how special you are to me and your dad. Although you are not visibly with us and others can not see you, you are here. You are on my mind every day. You are part of me and will always be a part of our family. I'm still trying to figure out how to answer when people ask how many children we have. It is such a simple question, but, oh so loaded. People always ask if your brother, Gavin is our first. Yes, he is the first son that we have been blessed to raise, but no he is not our first. I wish I could just say that. I just worry about burdening others with our pain of losing you. I'll eventually find something that feels comfortable. Just know that I never mean to deny you. If I could I would stand on a mountain top and share you with the world. You are my first born son and I love you with all that I am.
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Aiden's Story
When we found out we were pregnant with Aiden we were so excited. Our first pregnancy had ended in an early miscarriage, so our excitement at being pregnant again was also met with fear. As each week of our pregnacy progressed, our confidence grew. When I began to feel you wiggle around in my belly, I finally felt safe. At 20 weeks, we went shopping and found the perfect crib and matching dressers for you- you had to have the best! I finally allowed myself to splurge on maternity clothes too! I absolutely loved the little belly that I was growing. I have never felt more beautiful or powerful as when I was pregnant with you. I felt like I could do any and every thing.
At 20 weeks, I also began to notice that I was 'leaking' a little bit. Now, you see, I've always had a weak bladder and you hear pregnant women talk about bladder weakness- so, I just chalked it up to my weak bladder. I remember joking with friends that I was probably leaking amniotic fluid, but that didn't really happen, did it? We had a doctor appt. and ultrasound scheduled so I would just ask the doctor about it at our appt. After shopping we set up your crib and I did a little fashion show of all of my new clothes for your dad. We couldn't wait for our doctor appt. the next day- we had decided to find out if you were a little girl or boy! As we went to bed that night I thought that I felt a contraction. I didn't know what one felt like and it didn't hurt, but huh? what was that?
The next day everything happened so fast... We had our ultrasound. You are a little boy!! And my amniotic fluid levels are normal. Okay, everything looks good! After the ultrasound we met with our regular doctor and I discussed my 'bladder' leaking. She suggested a quick exam to see if there was any pooling of liquid inside me. There was. It's not my bladder?! My doctor then did a test to determine if the fluid was indeed amniotic fluid. It comes back negative. She then performs a pelvic exam to see if I'm dilated. I am. Oh no. We were in a smaller hospital and it was decided that I should be brought to the cities to go to a larger hospital- just to be checked out further. I didn't fully realize the seriousness of all that was happening until I was put in an ambulance- with the sirens on!
I remember laying in the ambulance. What was happening?! I was definetly having contractions now. I naively thought that everything would still be okay. I watch the Discovery channel and TLC, they can do amazing things. When we got to the hospital, they did another fluid test- it is amniotic fluid! They put me on medicine to try to stop my contractions. They explain to me that if our little boy is delivered now, there is nothing that can be done to save him. He is just too little and his lungs have not had a chance to fully develop, let alone mature. The doctors tell us that my amniotic sac is leaking and that I am at risk for a uterine infection. If my contractions can be stopped and I do not develop an infection, maybe my body can hold on. I would need to make it at least a couple more weeks in order for our little boy to have any chance. Even then, the outlook may not be good. I thought maybe I could will my body to keep my baby safe. I was wrong.
Throughout the night, my contractions are unable to be controlled and I begin bleeding. We are going to lose our son. This can not be happening! I suddenly develop a fever and I realize that my body is failing me. I have an infection. I don't want my little boy to suffer. Please don't let him suffer. His heart rate increases. His little body is responding to my infection. I have no choice but to let nature take its course. There is nothing I can do to save you. I am failing you... I am so sorry... Oh baby, I am so sorry... The doctors put me on pitocin. I need to deliver now because of the infection that has developed.
I remember the doctor telling me to push... I couldn't do it. I was so afraid to let you go. How could I let you go?!?! I had to be told several times to push. Although I knew that there was nothing that could be done to change the outcome, I still felt like I was betraying you by delivering you... I couldn't give up on you, on us. Finally, I had to... One little push is all it took. You came out feet first. Your daddy saw you kick your little legs! You were put on my belly and I just held you. You were so perfect and tiny! You were born just after 8am weighing 13.2 ounces and you were 10 inches long.
As soon as you were born, I felt a calm come over me. I was so afraid that I would become hysterical and I so badly wanted to be brave and strong for you. I didn't want you to feel the pain and devastation that I was feeling. These would be the only moments that we would spend together and I wanted them to be peaceful. I just wanted you to feel all of the love that your dad and I had for you.
When you were born, your little heart was beating, but you were never able to take a breath. We had you baptized right away before your heart stopped beating. Your heart took its last beat while I held you in my arms. I don't know what happened next. We bathed you. We dressed you. All of your family held you. We took your hand and foot prints. We were able to spend a lot of time together. The hospital staff was so compassionate. We took pictures and awed over every little part of you. You were perfect and we were so very proud that you were our son. We tried to take in every moment as we new this would be all that we would have. Your dad and I just held you. After everyone left and it was just the three of us, we all took a nap together. I layed you right upon my chest and just held your cold, little body to my warm chest. Your daddy did the same. We knew that this would be the only nap that we would ever take together.
Leaving you at the hospital was the hardest thing that we have ever had to do. I had to have the nurse take you away becasue I just couldn't give you up. We came home to your empty nursery and crib that we had just days before set up for you. I had a closet full of maternity clothes that I wouldn't be able to wear. I had finally let my guard down and believed that this time we would have a child to truly join our family. How could life be so cruel?
We had to plan your funeral. Again, how can this be happening?! I am planning the funeral of my son. We picked out an outfit for you to be buried in and picked a tiny little coffin for you. Never in my wildest dreams did I think something like this could happen. On the way to your funeral service I noticed that my breasts were leaking. Cruel. We had a beautiful funeral service for you and we were able to bury you with the remains of our first miscarriage (I had kept them not knowing what to do with them, but knowing that I couldn't just have them thrown away or have them disposed of). I am so glad that the two of you are together- in body and in spirit. We honored your brief life as best as we knew how. We shared you with everyone that we could.
It was determined that I have an incompetent cervix. As Aiden grew bigger and more pressure was applied, my cervix was not strong enough to hold him and I dilated prematurely with no symptoms. Thankfully, with intervention, I was able to carry our next child, Gavin, to term. I will forever be thankful to you, Aiden, for showing us what had to be done in order to have Gavin with us. I just wish that I would have known and that we didn't have to learn this through losing you. I wish that you were here with us too. The guilt of failing you consumed me for a while. I felt betrayed by my body. I thought that somehow I should have known or done something differently.
I can't say that I will ever feel whole again, but I do my best. Losing a child takes away the security, that you take for granted each and every day, that there will be a tomorrow. You realize that life is not guaranteed. Life will never be the same as before, but somehow life does continue on. I remember just being so afraid to eat, to breath, to do every day normal things. How could I when my son will never have the chance? I was afraid to live and I was afraid that the pain would subside- I thought that this meant that I would forget you.
I have since realized that the best way to show you how much we love you, is to live. I know that you know that I would have done anything to have you here with us. I hope that you are as proud of your daddy and me as we are of you. We love you, Aiden Robert. We will continue to honor, love and remember you for as long as we live.
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Aiden's Photo Album |
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| Celebrating the beauty of you in my belly. We were so excited! |
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